Yearview Mirror: A decade in review

I let hormones, emotions and anxiety control a lot. But I’ve learned that I am more than my bad moments Continue reading

Happy Father’s Day

“This year… I got to celebrate my husband. I got to watch him hold his son, and play with him. I got to buy cards for him; one from me and one from our son. And I got to make cute little baby crafts that he now has displayed in his office.” Continue reading

Changes are a’comin’

We are two weeks into our lives as a married couple and I must say, while nothing really feels different, being married to a great guy is awesome.

Now that the wedding is behind us, this site will be going through a lot of changes. I’ll keep a lot of the general information available for anyone that is interested in it, but it will be condensed into one navigation tab with sub-navigation for everything else.

You’ll notice the title of the site has changed to reflect the new direction. This will be a site that will record our journey through life as a married couple and all of the wonderful, glorious things that await us in the future. Also, the url has been updated, so you if you follow the blog from a shortcut or a quicklink, you’ll want to be sure to update that as well.

So, in the meantime, I’ll thank you for your patience as all of the changes are implemented and completed.

Happy following!

Let the good times roll . . .

Before we left for St. Louis on Friday for the Tiemann Wedding on Saturday, May 18th we mailed out all of our invitations! It was such an exciting feeling to have that daunting task checked off our to do list. It was so relieving to be able to kick back and enjoy myself for a weekend without stressing about our wedding and get to really enjoy Dan and Danielle’s – which was GORGEOUS, by the way.

As exciting as it was to get the invitations mailed out, I did not anticipate how exciting it would be to start receiving responses! OMG, you guys, it is AWESOME! I love coming home and checking the mailbox and seeing little response envelopes inside. What I love even more is opening those envelopes and finding cards that say ‘Accepts with pleasure.’ We have received five in the last two days and all of them said yes. I can’t even begin to explain how much it means that people truly want to be a part of this day. Blessed comes to mind.

What might be even more exciting, if that’s possible, is the fact that we have our engagement session booked with our A.MAZE.ING photographer, Dustin. I can’t even tell you how awesome this guy is – you’ll just have to wait and see the photos.

We also finalized all of the details for the rehearsal dinner, which will be at Fiorella’s Jack Stack BBQ’s Freight House location. This place is stupid delicious and I am looking forward to our out of town guests experiencing it.

AND the wedding is going social! The wedding has its own hashtag, #SuddrethWedding, its very own Twitter account (@SuddrethWedding), and it even has its own Facebook page, Suddreth Wedding! If you want to follow along with all of the excitement there are so many ways to connect with us. And if you use Instagram, you can find us there as well with the handle, you guessed it, Suddreth Wedding. As the wedding gets closer and people begin taking and posting photos, tweets, etc be sure to use the #SuddrethWedding hashtag so we can follow and see all of your lovely posts!

Finally, there is still a more time to vote for your choice in the Father/Daughter Dance survey – the results are really close, so make sure you get your vote in and your favorite song wins!

Phew, that was a TON of information. I was going to work on program designs, but I think I’ll have a glass of wine and catch up Grey’s Anatomy instead!

So in love with this man

I don’t often post about my fiancee aside from the annual mention in my end of year wrap up over at my other blog. I always say how thankful I am to have him in my life, and always mention how my favorite part of every year is the fact that we have spent another year together. But every now and then I just feel like I need to give everyone a glimpse at some of the reasons I love the man I am going to marry.

I love him for many reasons, not the least of which is that he is the most patient person I know. I mean truly he has the patience of Job. I know that I am a pain in the ass, frustrating beyond words, impatient as can be, and have the quick temper o’ the Irish. But he handles it all like a champ; even when I am being completely insane and irrational. He just waits out the crazy. Because he is a saint.

One of the other biggest reasons is that he is kind hearted and compassionate.

Last week the Kansas City area received an unusually-late-for-the-season snow storm which dumped over a foot of snow in the area. Shoveling snow is not super fun so by the time the weekend rolled around we (read Brett) had only cleared out a small area on one side of the garage to get the truck in and out. But, when the snow plows came through they left a bank of snow at the end of the driveway blocking our way out.

Typically, we (read Brett) would just gun it out of the garage and plow the truck through the bank, but on Saturday when we were getting ready to leave, Brett saw a man walking up our driveway. He got out of the truck and met him to see what was up.

The man told Brett that he was trying to make some money to help him get his family through to the next week and wanted to know if we would hire him to shovel our driveway. He said he didn’t need much.

Brett asked if I had any cash on me, something neither of us regularly carry on us. I did have some cash and gave him what I had. Brett explained that we didn’t have the full amount of cash to help him out completely, but could we pay him what we did have on us to shovel out the snow bank at the end of the driveway.

The man said that he would do that, and then asked if we had a shovel he could borrow. Brett pulled one of the snow shovels we have out of the garage and handed it to him. As the man started to shovel and Brett started back to the truck, I heard him say to the man, ‘You know what, keep that shovel. I hope it helps you earn some more money today.’

My heart exploded with love at the kindness and compassion in Brett’s heart.

When he got back to the truck he sat in the driver’s seat and we sat there for a moment while he was shoveling the snow. I looked out the window and noticed that this poor man who was obviously down on his luck, asking to shovel our driveway and not even having a shovel, was not even wearing gloves. It was 30 degrees outside. And he was shoveling snow. I pointed this out to Brett who immediately went down to the basement and found a new pair of work gloves that he wasn’t using. He came back outside and gave the man the gloves as well.

I couldn’t see the entire exchange but I have the feeling that this man was very grateful for the kindness that was shown to him.

I cannot imagine the circumstances in this man’s life that led him to having to ask to borrow snow shovels to shovel people’s driveways, but I pray that he was able to earn the money he needed to take care of his family. I am thankful everyday that I have the life I do. That I have a nice home. Heat for the winter. Air conditioning for the summer. Food in the pantry and in the refrigerator. Reliable vehicles to take us to all of the extra things we like to do.

For I am well aware that to many our life seems extravagant. That there are too many people without a home. Warmth. Food.

I am proud of Brett everyday, but Saturday I was more proud than I thought my heart could handle. He could have so easily told this man that we did not have any cash on us and left it at that. But instead, he thought about what he could do rather than what he couldn’t. In the grand scheme of things, what is a few dollars, a shovel (that we weren’t using anyway) and a pair of gloves? To us – not much. But to this man, it very well could have been the difference between dinner for his family or not. Or money to pay the heating bill. Or gas to get a sick kid to the doctor. Or any other number of things.

A little bit of kindness goes a long way and I hope that man was able to make the rest of the money he needed. Even more though, I hope once he is doing better that he pays it forward and continues the kindness.

Knowing the kind of man I am going to marry makes me so proud

to become his wife.

I know I say this often, but I truly believe it, kindness can change the world. I hope the man’s world was changed; I know my world was changed by it.