Yearview Mirror: Year 35

This past year has shown me how strong I am. And how weak. How flexible I am. And how unyielding. How carefree I am. And how anxious. Continue reading

Advertisements

Happy Father’s Day

“This year… I got to celebrate my husband. I got to watch him hold his son, and play with him. I got to buy cards for him; one from me and one from our son. And I got to make cute little baby crafts that he now has displayed in his office.” Continue reading

Changes are a’comin’

We are two weeks into our lives as a married couple and I must say, while nothing really feels different, being married to a great guy is awesome.

Now that the wedding is behind us, this site will be going through a lot of changes. I’ll keep a lot of the general information available for anyone that is interested in it, but it will be condensed into one navigation tab with sub-navigation for everything else.

You’ll notice the title of the site has changed to reflect the new direction. This will be a site that will record our journey through life as a married couple and all of the wonderful, glorious things that await us in the future. Also, the url has been updated, so you if you follow the blog from a shortcut or a quicklink, you’ll want to be sure to update that as well.

So, in the meantime, I’ll thank you for your patience as all of the changes are implemented and completed.

Happy following!

Making progress…

Last week was our first pre-marriage class at our church. We were not really sure what to expect, but one of our ministers recommended we go to this class, so we did. I think we were both pleasantly surprised by how the class went. Since Brett and I have been together for a while we weren’t sure what we would really get out of the class, but there were some great talking points brought up in the class, and it gave us an opportunity to really talk. It also gave us a chance to ask how to handle the fact that we see each other 24/7 since we live together, work together, and carpool to work. We are rarely apart. The class leaders gave us some good advice and seemed pleased that we were able to recognize that was something we should be aware of and that we should not feel bad to ask one another for some space if we need it. All in all, I think we both got a lot out of the class and are glad that we went.

Also last week we designed our save the date cards. They came in this week and we are so thrilled with how they turned out. We have already mailed them out, so be checking your mail boxes for them.

While we were designing our Save the Dates, we went ahead and designed, ordered, and purchased over invitations, reception cards, RSVP cards, and thank you notes. When we were going through everything, of course I started to cry. Having everything in my hands just made this whole thing so much more real.

Sitting down together and addressing our save the date cards was actually really fun and while it was a lot of work, we did not mind at all. It made us realize how blessed we are to have so many wonderful people in our lives that we want to celebrate with!

We have also completed all of our registries, so be sure to check out The Registries page for details.

Also, we have set aside a block of rooms at the Drury Inn & Suites located off of I-35 and Shawnee Mission Parkway. Further information about how to book a room using the group rate can be found by visiting Places to Stay, Things to do. This page will also help you with things to do while you are in town if you decide you want to explore the city Brett and I call home.

Things are really moving along nicely and coming together as planned. We have a photographer who are just thrilled will be a part of our day! Thanks, Dustin!

We are meeting with the baker this week to discuss cake options and we have been scouting venues for the rehearsal dinner as well as looking at places to cater the reception.

Finally, we have been checking, and checking, and checking, and checking on airfare to Jamaica. One of the disadvantages of living in the middle of the country is that you are rarely able to fly direct to anywhere AND all of the flights are about eleventy billion dollars. So, in the fall we signed up for a credit card that earns miles through one of the airlines thinking that we would be able to earn plenty of miles between when we signed up when we booked the flights to at least earn one free ticket. Well, technically we probably did because we have tens of thousands of miles, but of course we can’t use them because of restrictions and blah blah blah. So, Brett being the clever and resourceful man that he is talked to a bunch of different airline representatives and was able to figure out the best way to get to Jamaica. And boy did he! Turns out we will be flying all the way to Jamaica sitting in FIRST CLASS! I am so. excited. I have never even flown in business class, so I am excited to experience the luxuriousness that comes with this.

So, things are coming together quite well and we are so excited.

160 days and counting……

So in love with this man

I don’t often post about my fiancee aside from the annual mention in my end of year wrap up over at my other blog. I always say how thankful I am to have him in my life, and always mention how my favorite part of every year is the fact that we have spent another year together. But every now and then I just feel like I need to give everyone a glimpse at some of the reasons I love the man I am going to marry.

I love him for many reasons, not the least of which is that he is the most patient person I know. I mean truly he has the patience of Job. I know that I am a pain in the ass, frustrating beyond words, impatient as can be, and have the quick temper o’ the Irish. But he handles it all like a champ; even when I am being completely insane and irrational. He just waits out the crazy. Because he is a saint.

One of the other biggest reasons is that he is kind hearted and compassionate.

Last week the Kansas City area received an unusually-late-for-the-season snow storm which dumped over a foot of snow in the area. Shoveling snow is not super fun so by the time the weekend rolled around we (read Brett) had only cleared out a small area on one side of the garage to get the truck in and out. But, when the snow plows came through they left a bank of snow at the end of the driveway blocking our way out.

Typically, we (read Brett) would just gun it out of the garage and plow the truck through the bank, but on Saturday when we were getting ready to leave, Brett saw a man walking up our driveway. He got out of the truck and met him to see what was up.

The man told Brett that he was trying to make some money to help him get his family through to the next week and wanted to know if we would hire him to shovel our driveway. He said he didn’t need much.

Brett asked if I had any cash on me, something neither of us regularly carry on us. I did have some cash and gave him what I had. Brett explained that we didn’t have the full amount of cash to help him out completely, but could we pay him what we did have on us to shovel out the snow bank at the end of the driveway.

The man said that he would do that, and then asked if we had a shovel he could borrow. Brett pulled one of the snow shovels we have out of the garage and handed it to him. As the man started to shovel and Brett started back to the truck, I heard him say to the man, ‘You know what, keep that shovel. I hope it helps you earn some more money today.’

My heart exploded with love at the kindness and compassion in Brett’s heart.

When he got back to the truck he sat in the driver’s seat and we sat there for a moment while he was shoveling the snow. I looked out the window and noticed that this poor man who was obviously down on his luck, asking to shovel our driveway and not even having a shovel, was not even wearing gloves. It was 30 degrees outside. And he was shoveling snow. I pointed this out to Brett who immediately went down to the basement and found a new pair of work gloves that he wasn’t using. He came back outside and gave the man the gloves as well.

I couldn’t see the entire exchange but I have the feeling that this man was very grateful for the kindness that was shown to him.

I cannot imagine the circumstances in this man’s life that led him to having to ask to borrow snow shovels to shovel people’s driveways, but I pray that he was able to earn the money he needed to take care of his family. I am thankful everyday that I have the life I do. That I have a nice home. Heat for the winter. Air conditioning for the summer. Food in the pantry and in the refrigerator. Reliable vehicles to take us to all of the extra things we like to do.

For I am well aware that to many our life seems extravagant. That there are too many people without a home. Warmth. Food.

I am proud of Brett everyday, but Saturday I was more proud than I thought my heart could handle. He could have so easily told this man that we did not have any cash on us and left it at that. But instead, he thought about what he could do rather than what he couldn’t. In the grand scheme of things, what is a few dollars, a shovel (that we weren’t using anyway) and a pair of gloves? To us – not much. But to this man, it very well could have been the difference between dinner for his family or not. Or money to pay the heating bill. Or gas to get a sick kid to the doctor. Or any other number of things.

A little bit of kindness goes a long way and I hope that man was able to make the rest of the money he needed. Even more though, I hope once he is doing better that he pays it forward and continues the kindness.

Knowing the kind of man I am going to marry makes me so proud

to become his wife.

I know I say this often, but I truly believe it, kindness can change the world. I hope the man’s world was changed; I know my world was changed by it.